Waiting or Suffering both are Chaotic

The Gap between internal and external change is known waiting. The process of waiting for something to happen is very chaotic and requires a lot of hassle which a person might suffer in order to go through this period. This gap is not related to some particular situation or a specific person but it can happen to anyone at anytime in life, either personal, professional or whatever it might be. For example, I thought to get an admission on a degree program, it was and internal change which happened to me and it was an inside feeling of mine. But in reality to get a degree I have to pass through an entire period of at least two years, only then I shall be able to cause an external change.

In such a scenario which I have described the gap from the time I thought up to the time I actually got a piece of paper in my hand, that gap was the waiting period for me. The main thing to ponder about after realizing the importance of this fact is that when I made an internal change in myself, I was fully motivated and passionate about getting what I wanted but the longer period of that waiting process in order to cause the external change, declined my level of motivation, now the question arises when I don’t have any motivation how could I pursue that task positively and get it done correctly to get what I want.

In other case for example, I and some other friends of mine got training on a subject as a group which was related to societal change. The contents which were used to make us understand the concepts and the problems we generally face due to that particular issue and the consequences we get as a result were very serious. That issue got our attention at that time, the realization of the importance of that issue and its solution was waken up in our minds and hearts and we all felt the internal change at that point of time. But later on when we came home with the motivation to change the world by telling them the same theories and the conceptual things and to make changes happen in our society and to make other people realize the same feelings, we suffered a disastrous hassle.

And we come around one more ground reality that at this point of time the most important medicine we require is of Patience which will help us to pass the time of that waiting process to make the real and physical change happen.

To my surprise, I came across a concept which I have mostly studied in the Islamic books and it is very famous as well among such people is of patience. To pass through this period to which I have termed waiting or the most commonly advice which is generally given is of patience. But it is not as simple in terms of practice as it might look like while studying as a concept. The question which keeps pinching in my head when I got an idea about this solution of patience to fill out the gap came from persistence. Because to achieve whatever you want in life the only thing you need is persistence, motivation is also important but it depends on the period of time the longer the period becomes the shorter the level of motivation become i.e. there is a strong negative relationship among these two. So it is only the persistence which is the alternative name of patience to achieve anything. But there is one logical difference in persistence and patience. Our Islamic perspective of patience gives us a divine support and increases our motivation level in two ways. Firstly in terms of the goal attainment and secondly the divine mercy and the rewards we shall be able to get in the hereafter. So guys, to avoid suffering or the gap, practice patience because it is positive and rewarding.

Happiness

Happiness is a state of joy which is felt by human beings. Human resource experts explain happiness as an emotion; a positive emotion. There is no particular reason which causes such behavior. There may be different reasons for different people to be happy. Different variables can help in involving in this behavior. For example, a sense of achievement, any factor which can motivate a person can be a cause of happiness.

Happiness is a positive emotion, an extreme opposite to negativity, it accelerates positive mood in oneself which leads to optimism. And it says that behind Peace there’s a peaceful individual, behind violence there’s a violent person, behind imperialism there’s imperialist person and I say that behind an optimist person there’s a happy person.

Some people believe that happiness is a voluntary emotion and it cannot be created. I believe that it can be created artificially in fact I support the concept of “Artificial Happiness”. Because in the depths of darkness a person desperately requires a ray of light which he doesn’t have, there comes artificial happiness.  One more thing is that human beings are very prone to be influenced by others.  The theory of contagion effect says that a person gets emotional influence from other very quickly. So a happy person can spread happiness and can cause positivity in our society.

Artificial Happiness

Happiness itself and to be happy are two different things. The first phenomenon does not guarantee you that you are happy because it is a broad term. This type of happiness can be due to any external reason, and may not belong to you. And when we narrow it down and focus on, being happy it means that this happiness lies within us. This is the most important thing and we shall focus on that.

It is impossible for everyone to be happy all the times; we are human beings so we face ups and downs in our normal lives. But the point is the life of happiness is less than sorrows for us. When find any sorrow in our lives we stick to that always refer to that even ignore the good things around us.

Artificial happiness is a term for an advice we normally hear, that act as you are happy when in actual you are not. It complements the concept of positive thinking. It means that if you confronted with a negative situation, don’t think about that, avoid it, and act as if you are not preoccupied by that situation.

It is said that happiness is a choice you have to make. It is a state of being only you can create.

At times, we are kept in a depressing mode and find no way to get out from that, in that situation one needs to apply this concept on the situation, because at that time the switch of our mind is blown, unable to find any reason to feel good. If we are able at that time to think properly about the solution then why we’ll depress. So we only need a tablet to relief pain. We don’t need or either we want to study how the tablet will be made which will cure me. Like when a patient is dying, feels difficulty in breathing, the doctor doesn’t start thinking that how to find a way to normalize his breath, but he immediately puts oxygen mask on the patient’s mouth to save him. Similarly when we are in a depressing mode, we are actually in a dark situation, what we have to do is to arrange a torch or a tube light, we should not wait for the daylight, or any aid from God or from any person to help us. If we’ll not do that it will have damaging consequences on us, our lives, health, career etc.

This means that it is not necessary to have reason to be happy. This is my life, why should I waste it by thinking and analyzing such things which could make me tense, which are invaluable, and will make my life worse. Why should I worry about this article, I m happy because I m writing it, you are reading it. This is enough for me to be happy.

So when next time you feel depressed or any negative situation or thoughts dominating your positivity then take one doze of artificial happiness every time you encounter it.

Life Myopia

Life myopia; Marketing Myopia in relation to our daily lives

Generally the term I have used is a business term “Marketing myopia” but surprisingly it relates to our daily lives, now the question arises how?

The term means “mistake of paying more attention to the specific products attributes which is offered by the company rather than to the benefits and experience produced by these products”.  Same as the case applies to our lives as when a problem arises in our lives we pay more attention to the apparent problem, we get nervous quickly instead of being positive and looking for the causes to overcome, opportunities in that situation which might arise.

I’ll try to prove my point of view by giving two examples

Firstly at the macro level, the floods in Pakistan are the biggest and the most important problem, no doubt that this is a catastrophe and it has devastating effects on the people as well as the country but if we shall keep on seeing the negative results coming out of this calamity we shall soon loose hope.  The need of this hour is that to stand up and look for the ways to handle this problem, at the Government level there are opportunities for government that it can cope up with unemployment when the rehabilitation will start and it can also help effectees both in their homes and works to restart that on the modern lines.

Secondly at individual level, we are well aware that when a problem comes in our daily lives we forgot all our principals and theories and just start worrying about that our elders specially our moms are very fond of worrying, I would say that worrying is for free so everyone worries at any level, as I m worrying about this article.  But what should be done is we should think positively and should try to extract the positivity out of the problem. When I got a letter from a bank to appear in the recruitment test, my mind started calculations about that test, it would be difficult, how could I prepare for it in a short span of one week, but I didn’t realize that it would simply add to my experience if  I would not select.

So the thing is, one needs to be vigilant, a clear thinking of ten miniutes about the pros and cons of a problem for us common people and about the product for business people can save the losses of months and years.

Education is a life long tast...

yes, it is. Because what is the purpose of education. The purpose of education is not just to get degrees

or limit it to the piece of paper (degree). But to get awareness and when a person awakes his sleeping mind, makes it aware to decide what is right and what is wrong, only then the purpose of education is achieved.

And when one truly carries this purpose in oneself then it helps that person to switch on, the light of  his mind and decide about any issue indifferently. By then, it engrosses in the charachter of that person and also reveals ifself whenever the time comes.

A person can then intellactually realize, how to solve a matter infront of him. Not only this, but also if a person has got some education, he is expected by the society to behave in such a way otherwise there will be no difference between him and animals.

It is said:

Learning is the lost heritage of a Momin (muslim), take it whereever you get it.

I m sorry for taking this hadith of Muslims but it should not be only for Muslims but for everyone because it has alot of  benefit for us.

Even if we think logically education contains depth in itself. Education is the ocean of learning, very deep and very big. It is the wealth which can not be stolen. It increases if a person wants to increase or decreases. Even if a person thinks that it has faded, if one lost in touch, it can be recalled and always

contains an impact of one's personality.

Decision Making by parents for the young ones or by youngsters for themselves

Youngsters should take their decisions by themselves, because a decision about an issue requires prior knowledge about that issue. If a person knows what are the positive points and what can be the negative outcomes, this helps to take the right decision and on the basis of this theory anyone can take one’s own decisions.

The only positive edge the parents or elders have is their experience, on the basis of such an experience they decide about any matter. But if they will provide such experimental information to the youngsters and only tell them about what is right and what is wrong and let them decide about the issue, then this will be the most ideal situation.

Because youngster have to face the future which lies in front of them and they have to face it alone, elders can never take the responsibility for their children forever and they can’t live with the children forever to take decisions on their behalf. And one more thing is that too much pressure from the parents side can cause retaliation which may result in disrespect for elders.

The best way for this situation would be, just to guide, provide proper information to the children and let them practice what they have to do in future, let them practice “Independent Decision Making” without relying 100% on their elders.

Time

It is said that,

" Time is money"

Time is a very important element in our lives. Our whole life depends on and revolves around chasing it. Most of the time we try to cap it and it moves ahead, sometimes the quantity and the load of work is

bigger to fit into a specified time limit.

Time becomes more useful and helpful to succed in our lives when we learn the art of " Time Mangement". It helps us not to waste our time and utilize it as much as we can to obtain the maximum benefit out of it. Because it is said that,

" Lost time can never be recovered"

If we look around ourselves everything in this plannet follows a proper schedule. For example, look at the sun, it rises and sets in on its specified time, also so many other things we have which follow a fixed pattern regularly.So when everything is so much relying and working according to time, so we must also take care of such a precious thing.

Time mangement helps us in getting organized in such a way that wwe can easily do our given tasks, without delaying. This can help anyone in any field, in which one is working. We know that we are living in a world which don't guarantee us a permanent life so that if we waste it, it will have no affect or we may get another chance, But the reality is we have a limited life, which demands us to utilize our time in a good manner and positively without wasting it.

As it is said that,

"Those who waste time, Time was them"